A Conversation with Doug Magee, Author of Never Wave Goodbye
1. What sort of research did you have to do for this book? Is the kidnapping in your book based on or inspired by a true story?
The kidnapping in the book was not inspired by any true story. I simply had a “what if” moment one day and ran with the story from there. I did in a way research the families and their responses years ago when I published a book of interviews with families who had had a loved one murdered (What Murder Leaves Behind: The Victim’s Family, Dodd, Mead). In interviewing a number of families that had experienced these tragedies I saw a wide variety of responses and searches for meaning. The Williams family in my book is similar to a family whose son was the victim of a random shooting. The other characters in Never Wave Goodbye are amalgams of people I interviewed and people I know.
2. The families’ responses to the abductions vary greatly, from the Pyles’ quiet hysteria to the Walkers’ faith and business sense. Is there any ‘right’ way to react to tragedy? How might you react?
There is no “right” way to react to a tragedy just as there is no right way to love someone. I think we really compound people’s pain when we expect them to grieve or heal the way we think we might. I have no idea how I would react to a nightmare such as the abduction of one of my children. Perhaps that’s one of the reasons I decided to have the four families have such different reactions.
3. The ransom plot was elaborate, but suffered from a number of hiccups. Would you consider Mr. Everett and Chase’s operation to be professional? Or were they doomed from the start?
Detective Martin at one point says that the kidnappers appeared to be more than some guys sitting around drinking beer and deciding to snatch some kids as a lark. I tried to imagine kidnappers who were not simply interested in money, but who had some psychological needs that they thought could be met by an abduction. I think operating that way made them vulnerable to the many pitfalls their crime entailed. I liked the fact that their elaborate plot was essentially undone by a little girl’s demands of her father.
4. Do you agree with Lena’s grandmother’s superstition that people should never wave goodbye?
I suppose I do, though I’m not superstitious about it. A wave goodbye can be a pretty sad image to leave with someone.
5. One could argue that the children handle the kidnapping more reasonably than the adults. Why do you think they’re able to compose themselves so strongly, especially in the wake of vicious bears and dead abductors?
The parents and the kids were dealing with two related but different sets of problems. For the parents, it was the great uncertainty of what had happened to their children. That kind of unknowing can be the worst possible aspect of a missing child. The kids, however, knew where they were in the sense that they weren’t lost to themselves, and so they were dealing with specific problems such as food, bears, and the path home. I think nine-year-olds, because of their limited life experience, can be somewhat oblivious to dangers around them and thus more optimistic in such stressful situations.
6. David’s affair remains unrevealed by story’s end. Why did you choose to keep it hidden? Do you think his and Lena’s marriage is transformed in some way by the kidnappings and Lena’s pregnancy? Can these sorts of things “shock” a family back into some semblance of togetherness?
Actually I believe families who experience tragedies such as a murder or kidnapping are much more likely to be split apart by the experience. When I was researching my book on victims’ families I think the statistic was that nearly half the couples went through divorce within a year of the tragedy. As far as David’s infidelity is concerned, I think he realized that a confession while Sarah was missing would only compound the deep mistake he made in having the affair in the first place. I definitely think Lena and David’s marriage is transformed for the better by what they went through. I wouldn’t recommend it for couples whose marriage is in trouble, of course, but some extreme situations force us to see the world, ourselves and our loved ones differently, in a better light.
7. What made you include the book’s epilogue?
I felt I had put the families, especially the kids, through quite a ringer and I wanted to see what they might be like ten years later. I was surprised that Linda had absorbed so much of the tragedy personally, but it made sense once I realized that she in a way had to bear the burden of her parents’ crime.
8. The end of the story, with Lena “guiding” Sarah through their memories of pin-the-tail-on-the-donkey, is an almost magical element to the book, which is otherwise grounded in a realistic world. Do you believe in these sorts of ethereal connections between parents and their children?
I happen to believe that there are powerful and deep connections among all of us, not just parents and children, connections we are not aware of for the most part. I don’t see these as mystical or necessarily extraordinary. Computers and the internet are pale imitations of the ways in which we are knit together. I think both Lena and Sarah tap into this immense power when they each decide in their own way to go beyond the mind, to trust something other than rationality. They are immersed in what can be seen as a deeply irrational moment and instead of trying to think their way out they rely on something in their bones, in their being that eventually works.
9. Are you working on another book? What can you tell us about it?
I am working on another novel. I can’t say anything about it right now, but I think readers of Never Wave Goodbye will be interested. Please stay tuned.