From A Survivor to A Survivor
By Mildred Muhammad - March 18, 2011
Dear Beloved Survivors,
I am so thankful to Almighty God for giving you the courage to move forward with your lives. As a survivor, I know all of the pitfalls that come along to test us in our times of struggle. We are so busy being in “survival mode” that we feel we’ve forgotten how to live. Most of our friends and family don’t understand us or have the patience we need to feel right about moving forward.
Let’s be clear on the definition of a “survivor”! The definition of a survivor as given in the dictionary is “a person who continues to function or prosper in spite of opposition, hardship, or setbacks.” Well, I believe this is a pretty accurate definition of what we are doing, don’t you? We have learned, through our adversities, how to make things happen. We’ve learned what we need and what we don’t need in our lives.
However, there are some of us who are stuck “in the trauma” and need help to continue the fight. We have to reach out to each other and help one another. I want you to know that you are not alone. Stop beating up on yourself or telling yourself that it is your fault! IT IS NOT YOUR FAULT! Don’t take that burden upon yourself. When you need someone to talk to…email me. I am here to help as much as I can. I’m here to listen, to assist with helping you to find resources and for general conversation. Why? Because I simply understand.
I started After The Trauma because of my own personal domestic violence experience and thought of all of the other women in similar situations who need day-to-day assistance, as I did. After the Trauma is women who are transitioning from a domestic violence situation and are ready to take the next step into “freedom”. With the passion and compassion God has put in my heart for us, the survivor, I know with His help, we will be successful in moving forward with our lives. I say ‘our lives’ because I’m here with you. I won’t get tired, I won’t become frustrated, I won’t be impatient and I will be there to hold your hand. My total and complete focus is on us, the survivors. The ones that others seem to have forgotten since our initial trauma is over.
The most critical time of our development begins now and since others know we are out of the initial danger, they assume we are doing fine. Well of course, we know…that is not the case! There are a few organizations out there that do assist survivors and when I find them, I will put them on my website so that you can have access to them. You shouldn’t have to call all day long hoping to find someone to listen to you. Send one email to me, and I will do my very best to get you the information you need, if I don’t already have it.
So, as we embark on our journey to success, let us not forget those who are still being victimized. If you have gotten help and it was good for you, then pass on the information to someone else. If we all do a little to help each other, no one person has to do a lot!
I want you to know that I truly understand the struggle and pray that by the grace of Almighty God, we will be successful in a manner that is pleasing only to Him!
May God bless us all with the light of understanding, patience and peace.
Sincerely,
Mildred Muhammad
I am so thankful to Almighty God for giving you the courage to move forward with your lives. As a survivor, I know all of the pitfalls that come along to test us in our times of struggle. We are so busy being in “survival mode” that we feel we’ve forgotten how to live. Most of our friends and family don’t understand us or have the patience we need to feel right about moving forward.
Let’s be clear on the definition of a “survivor”! The definition of a survivor as given in the dictionary is “a person who continues to function or prosper in spite of opposition, hardship, or setbacks.” Well, I believe this is a pretty accurate definition of what we are doing, don’t you? We have learned, through our adversities, how to make things happen. We’ve learned what we need and what we don’t need in our lives.
However, there are some of us who are stuck “in the trauma” and need help to continue the fight. We have to reach out to each other and help one another. I want you to know that you are not alone. Stop beating up on yourself or telling yourself that it is your fault! IT IS NOT YOUR FAULT! Don’t take that burden upon yourself. When you need someone to talk to…email me. I am here to help as much as I can. I’m here to listen, to assist with helping you to find resources and for general conversation. Why? Because I simply understand.
I started After The Trauma because of my own personal domestic violence experience and thought of all of the other women in similar situations who need day-to-day assistance, as I did. After the Trauma is women who are transitioning from a domestic violence situation and are ready to take the next step into “freedom”. With the passion and compassion God has put in my heart for us, the survivor, I know with His help, we will be successful in moving forward with our lives. I say ‘our lives’ because I’m here with you. I won’t get tired, I won’t become frustrated, I won’t be impatient and I will be there to hold your hand. My total and complete focus is on us, the survivors. The ones that others seem to have forgotten since our initial trauma is over.
The most critical time of our development begins now and since others know we are out of the initial danger, they assume we are doing fine. Well of course, we know…that is not the case! There are a few organizations out there that do assist survivors and when I find them, I will put them on my website so that you can have access to them. You shouldn’t have to call all day long hoping to find someone to listen to you. Send one email to me, and I will do my very best to get you the information you need, if I don’t already have it.
So, as we embark on our journey to success, let us not forget those who are still being victimized. If you have gotten help and it was good for you, then pass on the information to someone else. If we all do a little to help each other, no one person has to do a lot!
I want you to know that I truly understand the struggle and pray that by the grace of Almighty God, we will be successful in a manner that is pleasing only to Him!
May God bless us all with the light of understanding, patience and peace.
Sincerely,
Mildred Muhammad
