A Young Wife
My Life in 8 Words
Q. What is your motto or maxim?
A. Breathe deeply
Q. What is your greatest achievement?
A. When my husband was diagnosed with Lewy body dementia, I realized that I would have to access my highest self to be able to care for him properly. And I did. Not that there weren't slips and frustrations, but I loved hving to reach alwasy for more patience, more understanding, more strength and more humor during those years.
Q. What trait is most noticeable about you?
A. My height. I'm five eleven, and it's funny because I never feel tall, but whenever I see photos of myself I think, wow, I'm tall. People must notice that about me.
Q. Which living person do you most admire?
A. My friend, the short story writer Leslie Johnson. Warm, honest, funny, with more social grace in her little finger than I have in my whole self.
Q. If you could meet any historical character, who would it be and what would you say to him or her?
A. I'd like to meet my grandfather, who my mother described as the Devil incarnate. Shortly after bringing her to America from Holland, he abandoned my grandmother and four small daughters to start a new family with her sister. I'd like to meet him not as a grand daughter but as a peer. I'd like to know what made him tick. There had to be something redeeming in the man for my grandmother to love him until the day she died